One thing I cherish most about a swinger couple is they provide after-care conversation when everyone is done. For me, as a third, to speak frankly, I am the outsider in this group. It is inevitable that the third would feel more or less being left out unless the swinger couples agree to treat him/her like a queen. However, hardly can I find any swinger couple like that. Usually, they would pay more attention to their partner, for the sake of their hookup relationship. There are cases that many couples are in a very open relationship, but that is just a few. Therefore, it is very important to me and to many other swinging third to feel being cared and welcomed even after threesome is finished. If I am told by a couple that I have to leave once things are done, I would say no to them. I would rather be horny alone than being treated like a piece of meat.
I had both good and bad experiences in this, which make me understand it clearer that how vital after-talk matters to me and to many other third like me.
I was invited to a house by a couple I met on a tinder for swingers app. They were very nice and good-looking, probably the prettiest couple I had threesome with. I liked them a lot. I could tell that they love each other very much. That quality is both good and bad. The good thing is they would be less dramatic when seeing their partner with another person, because they are confident about their relationship. The bad thing is they would care more about each other than the third person. I was ready for it before we got started. But still, I was very depressed when we were finished. During the whole process, they gave me little attention. I was practically an audience for them. After that, when the couple dating was over, they said “thank you for the night, but sorry we couldn’t let you stay for the night. Bye! I hope we could do it another time.” I am definitely wasn’t going to do it one more time. This would be my last time seeing them. They didn’t ask me how I feel and how was it. I was like a prostitute for them and I was free of charge!
After that, I would ask the swinger couples I matched with one question “Am I allowed to stay with them after the threesome?” If not, what are their plans when things are finished. If they tell me that they would have a little talk, that would be nice too, but if they don’t have any plan for that, I wouldn’t consider having 3som with them anymore.